The wedding ceremony was unprecedented and unparalleled in its ease and acceptance by society, even the family and the religious authorities. With a certain degree of conservatism, it was difficult to imagine it was happening with such ease anywhere but in Lebanon, the only country with which many Kuwaitis wish to maintain a lasting bond of brotherhood. The celebrations began with the Islamic ceremony, which was dignified and peaceful, led by a preacher who delivered a serious yet engaging sermon that was well-received by everyone. Everything proceeded without extravagance or lengthy rituals. The couple’s marriage ceremony was simple and unpretentious.
The following day, we went to the Syriac Maronite Church for the church wedding ceremony, which was somewhat more elaborate and lengthy compared to the Islamic ceremony. However, it was more vibrant, joyful and lively, filled with beautiful voices, prayers, music and hymns. The ladies and young women wore their finest clothes, and the men were impeccably dressed. All of this took place in an atmosphere of love and tolerance, free from any negativity. A few days later, we traveled with the bride and groom, their families, relatives and friends to the Turkish resort, Marmaris, where we spent unforgettable days.
The singer, Jad Choueiri, officiated the civil ceremony, formally declaring the couple, Haitham and Margarita, “husband and wife forever.” Letitia, with her Mona Lisa smile, served as maid of honor, being the bride’s cousin and lifelong friend. Ahmed, the groom’s brother, acted as best man. But what is the linguistic origin of the term ‘best man’? And what does it mean? The words ‘best man’ and ‘best woman’ are of Syriac origin, specifically from the word ‘shushbina’, meaning guardian, protector or representative entrusted with a specific responsibility. In the West, it is known as ‘the best man’ for the groom, and the ‘best woman’ for the bride. The term originated from Scotland.
In Arabic, they are known as ‘al-wasif’ and ‘al-wasifa’. Their selection and role are among the most prominent traditions of church weddings. These groups of close friends and family members often form an essential part of the wedding celebrations. In ancient times, the groom’s companions were warriors who protected him from dissenting relatives. The bride’s bridesmaids were responsible for warding off evil spirits.
Although some consider these roles to be myths, their origins are actually more practical than fantastical, as the idea of having trusted people participate in wedding ceremonies dates back thousands of years. In many ancient societies, marriage was not merely a relationship between two individuals, but also a legal, religious and social agreement including families and communities.
Weddings were important social bonds, and others often witnessed, assisted and participated in them. The term ‘bridegroom’ first appeared in English in the 16th century. The term ‘groom’ emerged a century later. Their responsibilities varied according to the time period, culture and social status. The important thing is that we all spent unforgettable days at a unique wedding, rich with beautiful memories, and overflowing with love, intimacy and happiness. Beirut and Marmaris provided a welcoming space for this event and for the gathering of love and tolerance among everyone. My thanks to the people of Marmaris, and my love for Saint Charbel.
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